Recently, I have begun to feel that I have truly migrated to a digital media diet. I now get all my news courtesy of Google Reader, my casual research from Wikipedia and elsewhere via Google, my instant communication via Meebo and Twitter, my music and film recommendations from Last.fm and Criticker respectively, and a large chunk of my entertainment (and other information) from podcasts. Despite all that, (or perhaps indeed because of all that) I’ve all but lost interest in my dedicated social networking account on Bebo.
Suddenly, surrounded by all this useful and interesting information, I’ve pretty much abandoned the banalities of social networking and the mindless hours of wading through random people’s pages that go with it. Now if I’m at a loose end, instead of counting the numerous spelling mistakes in the awful quizzes created by pop-culture-obsessed tweens, I can discover a new band in a matter of minutes, read my feeds of the latest news/‘LOST’ spoilers, or idly write a rant-y blog entry like this one.
Instead of whiling away the hours on online communities created for the sake of feeling like part of a community, it is possible to dip into the internet communities naturally formed by collective interest in subjects like movies, music, science, art, lawn bowls, chinchillas, or anything else which might take your fancy. What I’m really trying to say is that to me, social networking seems redundant. If you want to network socially, go out and meet people “IRL”. As I have observed, internet communities are only effective when they are founded on interests and discussion. General existence is what the real world is for.
There is something quite tragic to me about creating a ‘digital doppelganger’ to sell to the world in the form of an internet profile. I’m sure social networking sites are founded with the best intentions, but in the cases I’ve seen, they end up being places where people retreat from the harsh light of the real world, create idealised masks of themselves, then call it socialising.
The way I have come to use the internet is more like using it as a reference than as a proxy for my actual life. I use it to learn and gather information that I then absorb into my everyday life. It is not, however, a replacement for a life. Having a thousand friends on MySpace is no match for having a relationship of any kind in the real world, and I’m deeply, deeply concerned that it is currently far too easy for young people not to understand that.
As an everyday user of the internet, I obviously have no problem with it. In fact, I think it is a fantastic thing. I firmly believe that people can have good experiences finding fellowship or friendship, and occasionally love online, but those are exceptions. The internet is an information tool, not a replacement for any of the conventional methods of finding those things. It’s like a library. It’s possible that one day you will go to your local library, strike up a conversation with a stranger and end up being lifelong friends, but you don’t go there when you need company.
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